Love or Something Like it

Since the time I started writing this blog, I have been yearning to write something about Love. So I kept waiting till the month in which a feeling is celebrated, that is most of the time only “something like Love”.  Let’s call it “Love”.

So, Friends, One of the forms of “Love” manifests itself in gender based feelings, closely resembling Love. However, most of the times, this resemblance is merely an illusion. So,  after a considerable amount of “experience” in this “field”, I think that, majority of the times, “Love” is merely a feeling of attachment, infatuation, crush, habit and worst yet, Lust, confused with Love. In my opinion, the reason behind this feeling of “Love” is the vulnerability of human emotions and their dependence on others. So “Love” sneaks in when we are emotionally weak. Despite saying this, I still feel that, the need of “Love” is inherent in human nature as human beings are naturally weak and interdependent. However it is to remember that if it is “Love”, then it will have a short life and it can end due to many reasons including time, distance or marriage (yes! marriage does end “Love”).

On the other hand, if it is real Love (without double quotes), then it is a sacred feeling which is pure, unconditional and forever. Neither marriage nor distance can end it. It is not inflicted by lust or a temporary need of emotional dependence. It does not demand the ownership of the other person and still sacrifices and care about him / her. Most of the time, its manifestations can be felt in the warmth of our mother’s touch and in the sweat of our father’s struggle. It can be seen in the everlasting mercy of our Lord and His countless blessings, despite our negligence in thanking Him with words and actions. This does not mean that I negate the possibility of Love in gender based feelings, however I have yet to see a gender based Love which is unconditional and forever (Apart from “Devdas” and “A walk to remember” ).

I might seem to narrow down the scope of Love to my readers but my respect towards the feeling of Love and its sanctity does not allow me to mix it with the feelings of infatuation, crush, attachment, habit or lust. At the same time, I also hold these feelings of infatuation, crush and attachment as natural and inherent in human nature.

So I dedicate this blog to Love itself, to the purity and sanctity of this feeling which sweetens the heart. I pray that may Love occupy the hearts of every soul. Amen

“The name of the blog has been inspired by the Hollywood Movie “Life or something like it”

Aamir - Behind the Screen

“A person is like the moon, there’s always the part of the moon that he won’t let the others see” Anonymous

A couple of months ago, the behind-the-screen videos of one of the anchor, who was perceived as “anchor cum religious scholar”, in Pakistan, received huge attention from the masses. Before this disclosure of his “off-camera” self, the anchor held high stature in the eyes of many people. They respected him for his eloquence of speech, spiritual talks and supplications while hosting the religious shows. However, behind the screen, as soon as the camera went off, his eloquence in religious and spiritual talks converted into vulgar and abusive language. In the circulated videos, he made fun of the callers, asked the religious scholars about Bollywood movies, described the heroine in a perverted manner and used abusive and vulgar language. For more than a month, people constantly shared the videos and expressed their disgust and disapproval towards his acts and satisfied the thirst of their tongues. Nobody talked about the lesson the incident has for all of us.

Alphonse Karr once rightly said that “every man has three characters - that which he exhibits, that which he has, and that which he thinks he has”. We all have a personality which is hidden, in which, we, as humans, commit mistakes, sometimes slip from the right path and sometimes do hideous sins. But most of the time we keep this side of ours as hidden as possible because we will be ashamed if it is disclosed in public. We would not be able to face people if they would know how we talk, act and behave when the ‘cameras’ go off. The language we use when we are with our friends, our jokes, our topics of discussions, the backbiting, the times when we sin knowing that nobody is looking at us, we want all of this to remain concealed. The personality that we exhibit and, based on which, the honor and respect we receive from people will burn into ashes if our hidden sins are revealed to human beings.

I felt bad for the anchor because his sin was revealed. The anchor’s name is also Aamir and after watching the video, I felt that it could be Aamir Amin, but Thank God it wasn’t me. The only difference between Aamir Amin and that Aamir is that the sins of the later were revealed and former’s sins are still concealed. Many must have forgotten the incident, but the incident should have been an eye opener for all of us. We might still slip, we might still err or commit sins, but we should fear the time when our sins will be revealed whether in this world, or in His court on the Day of Judgment. It will be a moment of shame. Rather than spreading and discussing other’s sin, we all should take refuge in God, for this to happen to us, for we all are human and prone to err but nobody of us would like his sins to be revealed.

I pray to God, to conceal my sins in this world and hereafter. To prevent the shame I can face if my sins are revealed and to rectify my mistakes before it is too late. I pray to God to enable me to conceal people’s mistakes and sins and to avoid discussing them with others to satisfy the thirst of my tongue. Amen

Wherever you are, be a source of comfort, love and happiness for fellow creatures. 

The King and Rebels

Today, I met a friend from Yemen and had a small conversation with him regarding the situation in Yemen and Arab world. He told me that thousands have lost their lives because of their rebellion against the king, the king who solely ruled their land for more than three decades.  Similar is the case with other Arab nations. The Arab kings did not like this rebellion and they ordered that anyone who will rebel against their supremacy will be killed. Till now they have killed thousands. These kings ruled those countries for years, almost all of them for more than 30 years. They were use to of this kingship. They ordered to kill anyone who was trying to take away this kingship from them. They thought that their supremacy will and should last forever. But until now some of them have died and some are finding a safe exit. 

Human history is full of such incidents. All this took my thoughts somewhere else. I started comparing these kings with another King, the solitary King of this universe. It reminded me how merciful and compassionate is The King of heavens and earth. It reminded me how abundant and eternal is the mercy of the most gracious King of east and the west. It reminded me how much The King, The Lord, Our God loves His creature.  The brutalities of these Arab kings towards the rebels, made me humble before The King of this Universe.

In His World, there are a lot of them, who rebel against Him. Let alone rebels, there are those who even deny His existence. And yet there are people like me, who even after knowing and accepting Him from head, heart and tongue, disobey Him. But all Praise to Him, all these rebels are living in His beautiful world, and He is giving them all the time before He will judge them in the hereafter. He is showing them all kind of signs to come back to Him and turn away from their rebellion.  But He is not killing these rebels on their rebellion. He is not punishing them for their arrogance and ignorance. He loves His creature.

Yes, He is the most gracious and the most merciful King of this world. Yes, His mercy is eternal and abundant. Only His solitary supremacy and Kingship will last forever and no rebellion can take it away from him. I feel humble before Him for his mercy and pray to Him that 

‘O Lord, forgive me for my sins, forgive me for my rebellious nature, and forgive me for taking your abundant and eternal mercy for granted, for that I am weak, but I belong to you and only you’. 

The Story of a Black box

Today, when I woke up, I saw a black box, placed in my room. There were lights of different color emitting from the box. Having something strange in the room, I was curious about it. A lot of questions started to prompt in my head. What is this? How does it emitting light? What is the box made of? How does it work? To satisfy my curiosity, I started working with the box. After a little “research” I found that the box is made of wood. With a little jiggling, I found that there is something inside the box which might be emitting the light. I became curious about what is inside the box and somehow managed to find the nuts and bolts of the box. I opened it, and found out that there is a light bulb inside which is running on a battery. The light bulb is covered with a paper which has several colors and that’s why the box is emitting colorful lights. This was enough for me to understand the box and the mystery of the light emitting from the black box. In other words, I had understood the ‘what’ of the box. But this was not good enough, i needed answer for the ‘why’ part as well. 

I am a human being with the faculty of reasoning and the desire to know the purpose of things. Hence my curiosity provoked me to search for some unanswered questions of why. Why this box is in my room? Who placed it in my room? What is the purpose of this black box? What does it have to do with me? I tried observing the box more closely. Of course I could have guessed some answers of these questions from careful observation of the box and its functionality. However, i needed affirmation and that too from the one who put that box in my room. 

Similar is the story of Religion. My atheist friends do not understand that science has actually answered only the ‘what’ part of this universe. Newton, Darwin, Laplace and Einstein, all have only answered the ‘what’ part of this universe. They have elaborated on the mechanism of this universe. They have elaborated on questions like how did it start? How does it work? What is the mechanism inside and outside the world?  However they and in other words, Science, is not in a position, as yet, to answer the ‘why’ part of the universe. Science cannot answer that why this universe exist? At the same time, it has understood human “mechanics” including the physiology and psychology of human beings, but it cannot answer why these human beings exist in this universe, and what is their purpose in this universe? To answer these questions, science has to ask someone else. For science, that someone is religion. According to Maulana Waheed , “Science answers “what is that exists” whereas the religion answers “why does it exist” “.

History has witnessed that only religion has given the most scientific answers and explanation of these natural questions emerging in human mind. As Cecil Boyce says “Nature does not explain, she is herself in need of an explanation”. My atheist friends should sincerely try to find the answers of this ‘why’ as well. And they should put it in breaking news if they find the answers from Science.

And oh, by the way, that story of black box was just an analogy, so don’t worry about its climax.


Wherever you are, be a source of comfort and joy for the fellow creatures. 

Peace be upon you all

Life Without Passion II : Passion and Perseverance

Recently, i wrote something about Passion. The basic premise in my previous blog about passion was that "a life without passion is nothing but just moments without life". The readers of this blog can find it by following this link. "Life Without Passion". 

While reading about Passion, i found a wonderful small article on Passion, written by Rehan Ahmad Yusufi. After reading the article i realized that i missed one very important aspect of following our passions, which was perseverance. The article i am about to share with you explains perseverance in its own way. I found it worthwhile to share it with the readers of my blog.  Happy Reading :)

"The attributes of Allah, “Rahman” (Beneficent)" and “Raheem” (Merciful)" are mentioned together on various occasions in the Quran. It’s a common perception that both these attributes are used to present the same dimension i.e. the mercy, of God and are used together to emphasize on the idea. This idea that both the properties exhibit the mercy of God is true, but there is a minute yet important difference between the two. The word “Rahman” has a factor of passion and expanse more dominant in it while “Raheem” has a dominance of permanency and tenure in its meaning. When combined, both these attributes, excellently represent the absolute mercy of Allah SWT

These attributes of Allah SWT, hold a great lesson for us in them. A pulse of passion for righteousness is not enough and a perseverance and permanence is also required. Be it the matter of helping the religion or that of helping the poor, surely human passion convinces one to start doing something, but with this passion one should also have consistency. Only then can he permanently adopt kindness and good in his life.

The fact is that a person who does good only once due to passion can never compete with someone who is consistent on his good deed, however small that may be." 

Source: Al-Mawrid

Wherever you are, be a source of comfort and joy for the fellow creatures. 

Peace be upon you all

Life without Passion

'Are you bored? Do you feel deprived or frustrated? You must be a person without a Passion'

In our daily lives, there come moments when we feel bored, when the hearts sinks and we feel deprived, desperate and frustrated. All this Borusperation (boredom+frustration+desperation) is inevitable while living in this world. We cannot eliminate such "ailments". However, we can reduce them and that’s why the degree of Borusperation varies among individuals. 

Some among us are actually living every moment of their lives. They are satisfied and happy and love their lives. They have Life in every moment they live !

There are few who are standing on the other side of the shore. They hate their lives and feel depressed and bored quite frequently. These people are also living, but the moments they are living are without life !

Majority of us lie somewhere in the middle of both extremes. We sometimes find ourselves loving our life and sometimes we hate it. Sometimes we are enjoying it and sometimes we are frustrated and bored. These kind of people are just living their lives. 

To the best of my intellectual abilities and thinking, what makes the difference is a 7 letter word called ‘Passion’. It is the presence of a passion in our life, and the degree to which we actually follow it, which determines the amount of life in the moments we live. It is the passion for something which keeps us going, which is the driving force in our life. It is this passion, which makes us love our lives. Some people call it goal, but i disagree with them. In my opinion, everyone of us has some goal in our life. It is the passion associated with that goal, which actually makes it more than just a goal. Secondly, this passion can be for anything, from activities like music to our love for a person, it can be somebody’s passion for music to the passion which Mother Teresa had for the betterment of humanity.

We all know what our passion is, but somehow some of us forget it and some put it behind their backs. For the ones who just put it behind their back, there is only one suggestion. Guys, come on there is something just “behind your back” which can make your life awesome, just take it and LIVE. Create your own world without fear. For the ones who forget it, the trick is to do some soul search. I was recently reading a post on Facebook by a Pakistani journalist named Aamir Khakwani. He mentions a small soul searching technique for this purpose, which goes like this:

"Sit in a quiet room and consider for a moment that you have died and people are writing your gravestone. This is your final destination, the end of your life. Now think, what do you want them to write on that? Whatever you wanted to be in your life, you will choose the same to be written on the gravestone. Keep thinking in the same way, choose 3 writings and then keep thinking over them and finally choose one"

So the simple, yet difficult, recipe for a wonderful charming life, without Borusperation, is in finding our passion and then following it without fear. To be honest, i have not worked on it, but i have got the solution.

Wherever you are, be a source of comfort and joy for the fellow creatures.

Peace be upon you all

Truthfulness Vs Bluntness

"There is a difference between truthfulness and bluntness, be truthful but not blunt"

Aamir Amin

I have always believed that one should be expressive and truthful. However, when some people decide to become truthful, they become blunt. They confuse truthfulness with bluntness. The difference between both is in the approach, in the way and wisdom with which you will convey the truth. 


Hence we need to realize that we can be truthful without being blunt. We need to realize that stating a truth bluntly will not reap good results most of the time. So always remain truthful but always avoid bluntness, because a truth conveyed with wisdom will help the other to improve whereas a truth conveyed bluntly will only hurt him 


Wherever you live, be a source of comfort to your fellow creatures 


Aamir