"There is a difference between truthfulness and bluntness, be truthful but not blunt"
Aamir Amin
I have always believed that one should be expressive and truthful. However, when some people decide to become truthful, they become blunt. They confuse truthfulness with
Hence we need to realize that we can be truthful without being blunt. We need to realize that stating a truth bluntly will not reap good results most of the time. So always remain truthful but always avoid bluntness, because a truth conveyed with wisdom will help the other to improve whereas a truth conveyed bluntly will only hurt him
Wherever you live, be a source of comfort to your fellow creatures
Aamir
Dear Aamir,
ReplyDeleteWell, i like what you had written. Like always. The truth plus wisdom help others to improve, its totally correct. Some people improved and noted the truth and fact being given to them in a wisdom. They take it as a source of motivation. I used to do that. But the driving force for me to improve by knowing the truth in a wisdom way is i can say 75%. Even i put it on a paper as a reminder, sometimes Ive to read it all over again to feel it.
Telling the truth bluntly is criticizing the other person who listening to it. And this truth is really effective to me. Ouhh I can remembered every single things without even noted, its automatically paste somewhere in my brain. It is the driving force for me to be someone better, or perhaps the best. But, the bad thing is, ill still hold the grudge to that person.
For me,in a positive side, people who usually bluntly saying the truth usually meant what they say, 100% no lies. It is good, but the others have to bear the pain. The negative side is, when the other party could not bear the pain and bluntly giving the feedback plus uncontrolled emotion which equal to argument. Some end up killing each other. It is depends on how a person can take it.
But, I'm not saying the people who convey the truth in a wisdom or a good way is not meant what they say. It just they have to be around the bush right before they make it to the point. And sometimes they have to keep certain things to avoid others feeling to be hurt. The truth is hurt sometimes.
Well, by experienced both approach of accepting and conveying the truth, will make us more matured. It is when we grown up and become matured.
Dear Amy
ReplyDeleteThank a lot for your very valuable post. To be honest, i'm Impressed. I actually did not notice this side of bluntness, which is somehow the positive side of it. I totally agree with you for whatever you have written. I guess humans have the tendency to learn things hard way.
But the cost of loosing someone because of bluntness is a big cost. and at the same time, the chances of argument and fight are high. So i guess we may adopt your approach of "teaching-people-the-hard-way" as a drastic measure :), when wisdom, soft truth and beating around the bush doesnt work, may be then we should use The Amy Way ;)
Thanks my teacher :)
Nice idea Aamir. And good to see you writing something :)
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Thanks Rizwan Bhai !
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Regards